Mentoring Tips Part 1

Influencing and Engaging People

John Maxwell says that leadership is influence.  If that is true we must become masters of building our influence with our church and the people we lead. 
Here are 3 practical ways to increase your influence.

    1) Don’t ask anyone to do something that you are not willing to do yourself.
1 Corinthians 11:1 (NKJV)
 Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.
   
We must be generals that accompany our troops into battle.

• If you want someone to register for intense THEN you register for intense.
• If you want them to tithe THEN you tithe.
• If you want them to evangelize THEN you evangelize.
• If you want loyalty THEN you must be loyal

You will only produce who you are.  You can’t give what you don't have.
Lead by example and modeling — people are hungry for the real deal.

   2)Pray for your men and your leaders. 
James 5:16 (NKJV)
16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

Prayerlessness will kill our ability to lead.  In fact the scripture above says that the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.  If you want to release power and effective living into the people you lead, then you must pray for them.

Have a list of people you pray for daily.  Don’t just tell them you will pray BUT actually pray.
Prayer releases a humility in your life.  Lack of prayer is a sign of Pride - when you pray you admit you need God.

Prayer produces intimacy - the more intimacy the more influence you have.

   3) Extend Grace towards those you lead.
Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV)
​ “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

Forgotten Grace leads to unforgiving living.  When we forget that God extended grace to us then we tend to not extend grace to others.  Being judgmental creates an obstacle in you personally and in your ability to influence others.
We must be long-suffering with those who we lead.  Remember along your own journey someone overlooked your stuff.  Be willing to overlook other people’s stuff in order to help others grow!

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